Beyond the Tassel: A Good Life Begins Here

Head of School Samantha Coyne Donnel delivered these remarks on June 1, 2025, at the Commencement ceremonies for the Class of 2025.

"I am confident that you are well on your way to a good life."

Members of the Class of 2025,

You hold a special place in my heart. I joined the Upper School community the same year you began your journey as 9th graders. In many ways, it feels like I’ve grown alongside you. So today, while you prepare to take your first steps into adulthood and are departing in different directions it feels a bit like my own graduation too. I will miss you. And while next year I will return to enjoy Penguin Huddles on the stairs, feeling the absence of your steady leadership, I take comfort in knowing that Anja will carry on Owen’s legacy of dad jokes— sustaining  our weekly dose of perfectly mediocre humor.

At Steamboat Mountain School, we believe in the power of connection, expecting that, through their relationships within the school community and beyond, our students develop empathy based on mutual respect, honesty, and open-mindedness, and that they demonstrate a sense of responsibility for the larger community. What I appreciate most about the Class of 2025 is how fully you have embodied those values. You haven’t just participated in this community—you’ve shaped it. And in doing so, you are leaving Steamboat Mountain School better than you found it.

At a recent lunch with our commencement speaker, Franziska Bishop, each of you shared a word or phrase that captures the spirit of your class. Addy made a particularly insightful observation: in past years, she’d seen divisions—between day students and boarders, between global travelers and winter athletes. “Not this class,” she said. “We’re united.” As I looked around, her classmates nodded in agreement, their expressions confirming Addy’s sentiment.

Throughout that lunch, stories surfaced that demonstrated just how connected you are. One favorite? The entire class dressed up as yellow minions for Halloween, while Honza completed the look as Gru, with scarf, elongated nose, and all. It might seem like a trivial example, but trust me: after 25 years in schools, I can tell you that pulling off a unified grade-wide costume requires more than creativity. It takes trust, collaboration, and a strong sense of shared identity.

On your Himalaya expedition in India, you created powerful “Life Maps”—15 to 20-minute stories (or in Alex’s case – 2 hours) tracing your journeys from birth to that moment in time. You offered each other a deeper understanding of the unique paths that shaped who you are, revealing vulnerabilities  that ultimately drew you closer together. In India, you learned to rely on one another. When Honza fell ill during the trek, it took a collective effort to get him down the mountain and safely to a clinic. As you descended together, supporting your classmate, others began to fall ill, requiring those who were able to, to push through their exhaustion and carry extra packs. That moment revealed the depth of your care for one another, your courage in asking for help, and your true capacity for leadership.

Complementing our intrepid travelers, this class boasts a strong cadre of competitive winter athletes – three of whom, Owen, Abby, and Lachlan, will pursue post graduate training to further their achievements. Our winter athletes navigated the demands of a rigorous competition and training schedule alongside a challenging academic workload. Whether traveling for races or spending long hours on the mountain, they remained committed to their studies—often planning ahead, communicating proactively with teachers, and managing their time with remarkable discipline. These experiences helped to strengthen their resilience, accountability, and self-motivation, qualities that will serve them well, far beyond their time at SMS. 

But you are not only athletes and adventurers, you are also intellectuals: curious, reflective, and meaningfully engaged with the world around you. This was particularly evident to me during your senior English presentations on Thursday, where you explored the potential for artificial intelligence to benefit education. You recognized AI’s potential as a tool—for generating study guides, editing writing for syntax or grammar, and even for explaining complex calculus concepts after a week away at ski competitions. At the same time, you wisely acknowledged its limits. While AI can enhance learning and increase efficiency,  you emphasized that you do not want it to replace what you value most in your own education: critical thinking, creativity, empathy.  Nor can it serve as a substitute for the depth and authenticity of true human connection.

Almost 100 years ago, Harvard researchers began a decades-long study of more than 700 people, asking one core question: What makes a good life? Their findings, echoed in many other studies, were simple yet profound: it’s not wealth, success, or fame that sustains us, but strong, healthy relationships. Deep, authentic human connection is what makes life meaningful. And watching this class—how you support, listen, celebrate, and care for one another—I am confident that you are well on your way to a good life.

David Brooks writes in How to Know a Person

“The greatest thing a person does is to take the lessons of life, the hard knocks of life, the surprises of life, and the mundane realities of life and refine their own consciousness so that they can gradually come to see the world with more understanding, more wisdom, more humanity, and more grace.”

That, to me, is the work of a lifetime. And it is the path you are already on. Class of 2025, congratulations.

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